March – April 2012

 ~~ Actual TarotReading.com Chat Room Session – Thursday, March 1, 2012~~
Ruth
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OK, so let’s start with the broad strokes.
No, let’s begin with some concrete data and then move back to the more emotional stuff.
Your last court date is, if there is such a thing, the perfect day to get divorced.
So, let’s hope that the date is firm. Because it’s a wonderful time for you both to get some closure and feel that you have gotten the best you can get from this chapter that you are now closing in your lives.
Mark
Marie and I? As far as the closure?
Ruth
Your ex… Marie is conflicted about the end of this relationship and frustrated that she hasn’t gotten emotional closure, but she’s ready to move on. In fact, she’s moved on by appearances.
Mark
She has let herself go as far as appearance is concerned. I think she still continues to drink.
Ruth
As I said, as far as dates for the final blow to the relationship, the date is a very good one. You will actually be surprised by how good she looks.
There’s a lot of emotional stuff here, but it’s clear that you need to move on and focus on your life.
Mark
Absolutely.
Ruth
So… another suggestion, and it’s a strong one, is to introduce Melissa to your family in [MONTH], specifically [DATES].
With [MARK'S SISTER] and she getting along the best.
Mark
Okay. Have to work on that one. We were planning a trip sometime in [SAME MONTH]
Ruth
That is just a stellar time for her to “meet” the family. Both of you will shine on those days and therefore seem as a couple right as rain.
Mark
I’ll mark that on the calendar…
Ruth
The cards spend more time talking about Marie than they do about Melissa.
What the planets and stars do say about you and Melissa is rather broad.
For example, she is prone to falling or thinking that she is falling into a rut. While she’s usually optimistic, when the pendulum swings she’s very pessimistic.
Mark
That is so true.
Ruth
Hence the frustration with you… who needs a lot of time to make decisions and a lot of time alone.
Mark
When I’m around her, I don’t long to be anywhere else.
Ruth
You are a great listener… so in a lot of ways you are perfectly matched.
She needs to vent and you need to listen, it’s very good for her when she’s feeling stressed.
But again, you are very honest about your emotions but you take a much longer time to get to them.
If you just understand that about each other you will get comfortable with the fact that you will encounter this again and again.
Mark
She has complained about a “wall” between us and says that there is a part of me that she can’t reach. I haven’t figured out what that is.
Ruth
There is a saying “the first fight you have will also be your last” or something to that effect.
You simply have to explain to her that your emotions are not as accessible to you, not as on the surface as hers appear to be.
You are a classic slow burn.
Mark
Hadn’t thought of that approach
That’s right on the money
Ruth
Things look to be very good between you now.
Mark
I sure hope so. I’m very much in love with her.
Ruth
The cards say that despite those differences in approach to intimacy you are very much in love, and very complimentary to one another.
You bring out the best, how can I say it, you compete with yourselves and each other to be the best you can be for yourselves and each other.
It’s a very good match.
Mark
That’s good to know it hasn’t changed since the first reading.
Ruth
People have to learn how to be together.
And honestly, you needed to get some distance from the divorce.
Mark
She tells me that I worry too much at times. I’m just afraid of losing her sometimes.
Ruth
Well, let’s discuss that. As it’s a touchy thing for me to bring up and might seem to you that I’m encouraging you to be inauthentic.
Mark
The divorce is just a financial equation to me now. As in how much support and for how long.
Ruth
The financial thing is not going to be quite as good as you hoped, but once again, it will be fair.
Mark
I can handle fair.
Ruth
Back to Melissa…. you do worry too much and the cards want to remind you that you should not share that with her.
You are projecting that fear of loosing her onto her… seeing things that aren’t there, taking things too seriously.
It is VERY important that you experience more of your feelings with regard to her internally.
Mark
That’s right on the money.
Ruth
She can not be made to feel cautious about your feelings when you are in most cases simply over – reacting.
So, I’m not telling you to be dishonest, not at all. I’m just telling you to let those bits of insecurity stay within the confines of yourself.
If you make them her problem, then they will become THE problem. That is your cross to bear, loving her so much you want to smother.
Mark
That’s what I’m afraid of, and at one point she did say that she felt smothered.
Ruth
When you look at your watch, an it’s five seconds after the last time you looked at your watch… you must RESIST the temptation to look.
You know five seconds has passed, you don’t need to check.
Mark
Good analogy
Ruth
So as with her.
She loves you… but you can exhaust her if you need to check the time every five seconds.
And honestly, you don’t need to be confident to seem confident. It’s like dress for the role you want not the one you have.
Ironically, once you stop being needy, she will be the one who’s wondering what you’re thinking and how you are feeling.
Let her have a turn.
Mark
I guess I have to learn how to stop the neediness.
Ruth
You don’t have to learn, you just have to stop.
Because it’s about you, it’s not about her.
Again, don’t make your problem her problem.
You can fix it, ignore it and it will go away, AND you’ll still be where you need to be on time.
This is part and parcel of what we were talking about earlier. You have got to sit with your feelings a little bit.
When you think… does she love me this second, ask yourself, deeply.
There is a lot in there, if you need to learn anything it’s how to strengthen the muscle that brings the deeper the KNOWING feelings to the surface faster.
Mark
Keeping things suppressed for so many years hasn’t been helpful. A bit of unlearning is needed.
Ruth
Great observation.
Mark
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Ruth
[OMITTED]
But yes, in the span of this reading the cards see a great time for love.
Mark
Understood
Ruth
It’s like everything else, you are compatible, but you are only getting better at loving and accepting one another’s quirks.
I hope that answers things for you, and I’ll email you a transcript in an hour or so.
Mark
Yes, it certainly does. Thanks!
Ruth
Best….-Ruth
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Transcript of live reading session published with permission.  Client’s personal information has been omitted and names have been changed.

 

 

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